by Jaye Taylor
Shareholder and Attorney at Buckley Law P.C.
Many parents are conflicted when they consider filing for a divorce. They often want to separate with their spouse for the sake of their own happiness, but at the same time, they feel guilty about breaking up the family unit. They may also worry about how this separation will impact their children.
It is important that you consider how a divorce will potentially impact your children. By doing this, you will be able to prepare yourself for any eventuality, and figure out a way to comfort and reassure your children. Additionally, it is a good idea to envision the child custody setup that you would like to arrange alongside your divorcing spouse so that you are able to plan the future as co-parents.
The immediate impact of divorce
Research has shown that the process of divorce is almost always a stressful and anxious time for children. They often experience a range of emotions, from anger and anxiety to denial and emotional suppression. Helping to guide your children through the changes they are experiencing is one of the key strategies that will help your child. If possible, you and your spouse should try to explain what is happening in an age-appropriate way and be present to answer any questions that they might have. Remember that the courts prefer that you keep your worries and hostilities to yourselves and not overly involve your children in what should be an adult matter. If you feel you need to "vent," vent with adult family and friends rather than leaning on your children for moral support. If both of you are strong and upbeat about the family's future after divorce, that will go a long way to help your children through an otherwise challenging time.
Of course, you should think about your children when you are deciding whether to divorce. However, you should remember that children tend to be happiest when their parents are happy. The year following a divorce can be tough, but it can possibly be the best decision you will ever make for the well-being of your children especially if getting this behind you allows the children to experience happier, healthier parents.
Jaye Wickham Taylor is an attorney and Shareholder at Buckley Law P.C. and focuses her practice on family law litigation. Jaye Taylor has successfully litigated some of the most challenging and emotionally charged family law cases in the state, involving custody of children to fathers, severe parental alienation and abduction, allegations of domestic violence and international move-away cases.
Specialties: Custody, Support, division of assets and debts, modifications, elder abuse, will contests, adoptions, domestic violence, domestic partnerships, prenups.
The information contained in this article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. You should not act upon any information contained in this article without consulting an attorney for individual advice regarding your own situation.