by Jaye Taylor
Shareholder and Attorney at Buckley Law P.C.
Many people have good reasons for getting a divorce, yet they never act on them. Instead, they endure years of toxic relationship drama. For what purpose? To delay the inevitable? There is no reason why anyone should have to endure a psychologically damaging relationship simply to spare the other spouse's feelings or to "save" the other spouse.
Sometimes, it's vital to consider your happiness first. It's only by doing this that you can grow, live a better life and be a better parent for your children (if you have them). With this in mind, here are three common marital problems that shouldn't require any second thought when it comes to the decision to divorce:
When most people sign up for marriage, they agree to an exclusive relationship that does not involve sexual or romantic connections with other people. If your spouse is being unfaithful to you, there's no reason you have to put up with it. There are plenty of other worthy people in the world who can give you the faithfulness you desire.
Abusive relationships -- whether it's emotional, physical or financial abuse -- cause enormous pain and suffering in the world. Strangely, though, most of them can and should come to an immediate stop. All it takes is the victim of the abuse to step into his or her power, call the police if necessary, and say, "Enough is enough!"
Why would someone put up with an addict as a spouse? The same reason spouses put up with so many other things. Usually, they are in love; they can emotionally identify with the other person's suffering; or they want to help the person. But an addicted person will not change until he or she wants to, so if the change is not forthcoming, spouses may want to take the hard choice. Drugs, alcohol, prescription medications and other types of addictions have brought many marriages to an end.
If you are contemplating divorce because of one of these problems, a family law attorney can help you evaluate your situation to determine best next steps.
Jaye Wickham Taylor is an attorney and Shareholder at Buckley Law P.C. and focuses her practice on family law litigation. Jaye Taylor has successfully litigated some of the most challenging and emotionally charged family law cases in the state, involving custody of children to fathers, severe parental alienation and abduction, allegations of domestic violence and international move-away cases.
Specialties: Custody, Support, division of assets and debts, modifications, elder abuse, will contests, adoptions, domestic violence, domestic partnerships, prenups.
The information contained in this article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. You should not act upon any information contained in this article without consulting an attorney for individual advice regarding your own situation.